Reflections // Things I (Quite) Figured Out
Over the course of this summer holiday.
1. Treat yourself well.
This is ever so important, but also something which I haven’t been doing good. By belittling yourself and your capabilities, you are in a way dishonouring your parents. Just imagine how it’d break their hearts if they got to know about your insecurities. I also figured that we’ve to love ourselves just as how we would love our children. How much it would hurt you when your child gets her heart broken or when harmful words be told to her. Protect yourself as you would want your child to be protected. Do not allow yourself to be placed in a situation for another to break you.
2. Not voicing out opinions does not mean I am not opinionated.
In every way, I am human and I do judge things; but this definitely shies away from the typical ‘judgemental’ adjective used so often on people these days. I’ve been hearing from people that I’m ‘too nice’, and I should stop being so and learn to judge people. I do, I do. It’s just that I have this innate nature of asking questions - asking people how they feel and what they think about things. I want to see things from their perspectives and don’t want to be so religious and obstinate on my own (personal) views, which I believe would stunt human interaction by so much. I find that I can give a more accurate judgement from the collection of thoughts from different sources.
3. Our problems are too often magnified.
We pin up all our worries on the walls around us and allow them to implode. When feeling down and out, think about how small you are compared to the vast universe. I read something along these lines recently and it made a lot of sense to me:
When in the light, we always search for shadows. The closer we are to the light, the larger our shadows; we can’t avoid the darkness completely. The more we try to run towards the light, the more defined and bolder our shadows will be. How may we ever get away, or stay in the light? The more obsessed we are about chasing our shadows away, the day when they can no longer be found is the day when we are in complete darkness.
What it means to me is for us to bask in happiness and in light, not to bother ourselves with worries cast by shadows - before the dark totally consumes us.
Our insecurities will always be there, but what matters is how much we allow them to dwell in us. If you do not allow them to affect you, you may be in the light for forever.